Submission Doesn't Mean Slave

All I remember when I was young is my grandmother making my grandfather's plate and bringing it to him every night at dinner. My Auntie Jean does the same thing for my Uncle Marty. I used to always wonder as a kid why a man didn't make his own plate at dinner. Then, I begin going over my friends house and their mom didn't  bring their dad his plate at dinner. I asked my friend's mother why didn't she bring him his plate she looked at me and laughed. Of course she could not believe a small kid was asking her such a mature question and she simply said, "Baby he doesn't deserve  a plate made for him or brought to him". I know now and understand as a woman why she said what she did. First,  before I get into this please keep in mind these are my opinions so please if you always up in your feelings after reading this, calm down. I believe women should be submissive to their husbands only when deserved. Lots of women for one, are married to men they probably should have only had sex with. All men are not husband material. There are prerequisites that I think should be met before they can agree to be anyone's husband. Now if you with a sorry man that doesn't innately have an "I need to  make a future for my family by working hard" type attitude then you have a huge problem. If you are the bread winner and he is unappreciative and not willing to help the family financially, again you have a huge problem. A man should be a protector. A man should be a provider. A man should make deposits. A man should make you feel like you have his full support... his love... holding each other hand in hand forever through any struggles or obstacles. That man... THAT man should have NO problem getting a submissive wife in a marriage. Submission should only be given to a man with a MISSION for your family's life and with a clear vision for the success he wants his family to have. Submission doesn't mean slave. A man should respect you and treat you with love even in a disagreement. If my husband has my back and puts my feelings and considerations above his, you damned right I will submit to the man God has placed in my life. You don't agree. GO ahead. Do what works for you and I will continue doing what works for me and my husband. I have been married for almost 12 years, I am 32 and I got married when I was 20 years old. My husband reciprocates all the love and energy that I give him. He runs my bath water when he notices I am tired. He gets me just because gifts to actively show me he cares and loves me. He tells me he loves me everyday. There is not a day that goes past that he doesn't tell me how much he appreciates the things I do for him. He is my soft spot. He is one of the reasons why I smile. Being with him has made me a better woman. That is why I trust him for making decisions for our family. I know he got me... even with my eyes closed I trust him to catch me if I happen to fall. Like I said, submission doesn't mean slave. So as always I'm going to tell you, just in case your mother didn't. Respect, Love and Protect your husband. Keyword: husband. Boyfriends don't get husband benefits and priveleges. Point blank and the period. Know THAT.

Everything That Glitters Ain't Gold

It's not just men who and women who will try to play you, it's everybody. The only person you can trust in this world is YOU. Not to sound pessimistic or seem as if I see no sunshine in any situation but you have to have your antennas up with every situation and everyone. It is so crazy to me how people don't analyze their surroundings when clearly red flags are waving right in front of your face. If a man only takes you out at night, that is a sign. You look at what people show you, not what they tell you. Hell, people can tell you one thing and do the total opposite but as long as they are talking slick they continue to have you looking like a damn fool. I remember years back, a former friend who shall remain nameless, was so excited to tell me about a mystery man she had been keeping a secret. She was telling me what she wanted me to know but I wanted to know the real shit, the things that mattered. I let her talk, until she was done bragging about what he had and possessed but I notice she knew nothing about who HE was. Women get so blinded by material things they let characteristic flaws slip and fly right on by. So when she finally shut up I asked her..What was his full name. Where did he work. How old was he. Had she had sex with him yet. Does he live by himself. Does he have transportation. Does he have children, and if so where and who is the mother. Does he have clean fingernails. Does he have teeth. What is his credit score. The reason why I asked had she had sex with him yet is because sex, especially juicy mind blowing sex can cloud your judgement. I asked those questions. You know...the real questions. She answered some but ignored others. He seems to be pretty cool. He seemed perfect on paper but those are usually the ones you have to dig deeper and find out the real reason why they are single. As thirsty as women are these days, if a man with ALL of what he had going on has been single for a WHOLE year he must have something wrong with him he wasn't telling. Child...turns out homeboy was MARRIED. Yes honey you read it right, his black ass was married and had a whole other sexual relationship with my THEN friend at the time. They dated for about 6 months before she started telling us about him. The reason why I never knew she was seeing someone is because she was in college at the time and whenever she would go see him she would tell all of us she was going to class. Class my ass. Yeah she was going to class alright, about to get a hard lesson on life from the school of hard knocks. After we, as in I found out he was married instead of just cutting it off like a real woman should her dumb ass had the audacity to have the attitude of entitlement. Thinking she was well within her rights to continue what she was doing. Like someone owed her something. She said "If his wife was doing what she should have been doing at home then he would not have to come to her"...Smh... I reminded her that what a man does with you he will do TO you. You will always be the day AFTER bitch and never the day OF woman. He will always have to check with his wife first before doing anything with you because his marriage will always take precedence over a piece of ass on the side. You are a side hoe. A homewrecker. So of course, after she heard me tell her all of that our friendship ended. I don't associate myself with hoes, at least not on purpose. You are the company you keep. Ain't no way in HELL that I would go anywhere with a hoe. If I am sen with her people will assume we are cut from the same cloth and believe me when I tell you Angie is none of the sort. Everything that glitters ain't gold. you have to look at every situation realistically and weigh your options after analyzing the pros and cons of the situation. We all make choices. Mistakes are just something we call the choices we are ashamed of. So as always ...I'm going to tell you ....just in case your mother didn't.